Many assume that kindness is proven by constantly helping others. Yet always being available often lets people exploit your time and energy to satisfy their own needs. Lending a hand to someone in real trouble is admirable, but what if it is a friend borrowing your car for a date, or a neighbor asking you to watch their dog all weekend? Should you give up your comfort or time for every request?

These dilemmas weigh heavily because many equate generosity with never refusing anyone. Perhaps you were raised by parents who insisted you always comply, or you were taught that selflessness is the highest virtue. Breaking free from this belief is difficult, yet living entirely for others is exhausting, particularly when your own dreams require your focus, money, or effort…